Dec 12, 2023
Special guest Chris Kennedy, Pastor and Author
Chris’s book, Grace Under Pressure - https://amzn.to/3FBrdU2 (associate link)
Proactive v reactive approach
Proactive = investing in taking care of ourselves, our emotions, our whole selves to be able to live in the moment more authentically as ourselves and in what we value/believe
Reactive = awareness of emotion when it comes up
Tip 1 - Attend to and nurture
The environment
Relationships
Internal needs
Growth mindset – realist outlook + everything is redeemable
Tip 2 – Hold the tension of love with your frustration or anger
Tip 3 – Remember “more than they deserve”
Tip 4 – Non-judgment – grace and truth with the understanding that God is judge, not me
Tip 5 – Notice other people
Tip 6 – values and faith as driver, emotion as information to process
Shame
Tip 7 – careful of pouring yourself out to the last drop, we are human
The impact of shame and guilt on our internal processing of anger
“Holding It Lightly” from dialectical behavior therapy
The purpose of frustration and anger