Nov 14, 2023
How do I tell the difference between my anxiety and my child’s?
Attachment relationships are more connected for regulation
The value of presence
The detriment of sponging emotion
Tip #1 – adults can bring the emotions to consciousness for kids
Notice and name the emotion in the room
Also helps us differentiate between my emotion and someone else
Tip #2 – go out into nature/Creation to release some emotion
Link to forest therapy info: https://www.natureandforesttherapy.earth/
Tip #3 – know your own “stuff” (triggers, concerns, traumas)
Tip #4 – do not assume an emotion, ask about an emotion
Tip #5 – Be aware of triggers with no shame
Practice accountability with kindness
“I am uncomfortable. I want to hear what you have to say. I want to know what’s going on with you. The way it’s coming out is challenging for me.”
Tip #6 – hold the duality of parental responsibility with deep parental love and connection
Common questions: will they be ok? Will I mess them up? What am I missing?
Give yourself space to learn and grow
Try to help kids be unburdened by adult problems
Tip # 7 – Maintain your connection with God
Pouring out your emotions with God
Resting with God
Rhythms of prayer as emotionally regulating
Hear God speaking to your emotions as a Gospel-oriented, invitation-to-relationship God