Jan 24, 2022
Topic: How does a family adjust to someone becoming an adult?
Developmental realities, independence and angst
The reality of Young Adulthood – How do I access independence?
A Story: getting your first cold and/or changing your major in college
Tip 1 – Celebrate small things of young adulthood
Tip 2 – be mindful of the stages of parenting
parenting changes over time and with developmental levels of kids
Tip 3 – be interested in one another as people
Article: https://imperfectfamilies.com/grow-up-with-your-kids/
https://www.gottman.com/blog/create-shared-meaning-rituals-for-the-family/
Dave’s bonus tip for parents of YAs – “take opportunities to be chill”
Heidi’s bonus tip – “believing in eternity means I don’t have to be worked up about this moment”
Tip 4 – transition takes effort and energy and is worth effort and energy
Family members of YAs –
consider what you want and what’s realistic
respect their voice and freedom
check ins with low expectations
YAs seek help, communicate needs
set boundaries, lead the way in defining your boundaries
love your family as people not what they do for you
Short answer: relationships need to transition as life transitions