May 23, 2022
Topic: Topic: How do you break up well?How do I know it’s healthy to start dating again after a divorce or breakup?
- The weightiness of breakups
- Reminding us of our need as humans for intimacy
- There are ways to do break ups “better”, but no way to do it “easy”
Keep it classy, kind, and clear
- Break ups are in a moment, but the work of a break up is long term
- face to face universally preferred in the research
- What do you need and what needs healing?
- Find your support people
- Consider the impact on relationships beyond yourself
Allow for emotions
- Give opportunity to process for yourself and your break up partner
- let complex emotions be there, just listen and then move forward
- Own what needs to be owned, don’t own what isn’t yours
- Dave’s wisdom = “It’s not you, it’s us.”
- space before friendship
- Happier music video: https://youtu.be/m7Bc3pLyij0
Give yourself time and space for the grief
- Set needed boundaries
- Homeostasis, getting to normalcy and comfort
- Pay attention to your internal dialogue and engage in healthy and aware self-talk
- A good time to engage in your spiritual life for foundation safety/comfort
- Space in communication
- disenfranchised grief and awareness of the stages of grief
- markers for “moving on”
Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0338013/
Necessary Endings: https://amzn.to/3PD8Q4Q
Short answer: Keep it classy and give yourself time.